So they were saying to him, âWhere is your father?â Jesus answered, âYou know neither me nor my father; if you knew me, you would know my father also.â
John 8:19
When Jesus met the adulterous woman, he confronted those who wanted to stone her by asking only those without sin to cast the first stone. After her accusers left, Jesus asked, âDid no one condemn you?â
When she answered that no one had stayed to pass judgment, Jesus told her, âI do not condemn you, either. Go. From now on, sin no more.â
Itâs interesting. There were so many Jesus met who crossed the line of sinâpeople like tax-collectors, a woman at the well, and this woman, caught in adultery. Yet Jesus never seemed angered about their lives, their sin. Instead he refused to condemn these people, many times connecting with them on a deeper level and changing their lives.
But some people did anger Jesus. He said mean things to them. Called them snakes, vipers, hypocrites. Not the kind of things to be shared in polite company. As a result, Jesus probably didnât get invited to the high-society parties.
One of these verbal rebukes comes just after Jesusâ encounter with the adulterous woman. Once she is gone, the Pharisees show up with questions, as they always did. They were the religious leaders of the day, the smart people who declared themselves purveyors of truth and righteousness.
Jesus claimed to be the light of the world, and the Pharisees were not interested. A debate ensued, leading to their question, âWhere is your father?â
The answer could have been, âIn Heaven, where He sits on His throne.â But Jesusâ answer wasnât about where his father was. It was about who his father was. And his answer cut them to the quick.
âYou know neither me nor my father; if you knew me, you would know my father also.â
Think about it. Jesus told the very people who thought they knew religion better than anyone that they didnât know God at all. And oh, by the way, they didnât know him, either. Quite a statement.
Jesus saved his anger for these people. But the adulterous woman? No condemnation for her, only love and a desire to see her whole again.
You know what? This is what we do. Our mission is not about calling out religious leaders, but it is to reach those who Jesus touched with kind words. Many come in our doors feeling condemned and worthlessâeven if they donât admit it. Letâs love them. Build them up. Help them find a second chance.
And if someone comes along to condemn those we serve, maybe we need to call them out. After all, itâs what Jesus would do.
by Kirk Walden, Advancement Specialist
Heartbeat International
âFor you have had five husbands, and the one you now have is not your husband; this you have said truly. John 4:18
The Woman of Samaria (or The Woman at the Well) is one of our favorites in pregnancy help ministry, for good reason. In this story we see Jesus talking to someone with a checkered past, living with a man outside of marriage. But instead of condemning her, we see in verse 18 that Jesus affirms her for her honesty.
Then, later in the story, Jesus tells this woman something he has yet to tell anyone else: That he is, indeed, the messiah sheâs been waiting for.
Leading up to this moment, Jesus talks to the Woman at the Well about the living water he offers. She wants this, badly. But Jesus gives a condition: âGo, call your husband and come here.â Why does Jesus say this? Iâm not sure, but perhaps a clue comes in her answer, âI have no husband.â
Aha. Jesus knew this, and his reply is more than she could have imagined. âYou have correctly said, âI have no husband,ââ he says. âFor you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband. This you have said truly.â
Itâs easy to look at this and say Jesus was correctly pointing out the womanâs past sin (Five divorces? Whoa!), and proving he knew she was again . . . in sin. She was shacking up, right?
But what if there is something else here? Remember what Jesus was talking about, the living water? And offering her this living water, a water that would bring life to those who were dead, a life which would never end?
Maybe, just maybe, this womanâs biggest problem was not her sin, but her shame and brokenness.
In her culture, it wasnât women who filed for divorce. It was the men. A guess? Not one, not two . . . but five men, at different times, dropped her like a bad habit. With a piece of papyrus, they told her, âGet out.â In her heart, she had failed five men. She was unwanted, dismissed as a worthless piece of property.
And now, she was living with a man, probably thankful anyone would have her even if he saw no reason to marry her. She was broken. Ashamed. Head down at a well, drawing water . . . probably for someone else.
Perhaps for the first time in a long, long time, someone affirmed her. Remember, she could have lied, saying the man she was living with was her husbandâjust hoping Jesus wouldnât figure it out. Instead, she was honest and transparent. And Jesus thanked her.
Itâs a lesson for us all. Many of those who come in our door can be seen in two ways. We can address the sin, but while we might be âright,â we may be missing the bigger picture.
Jesus went deeper, addressing the shame the woman at the well dealt with every day. Instead of condemning her, he affirmed her. This launched a new conversation which led to her reaching out to other villagers, who then followed the messiah. The Woman at the Well, then, was one of Jesusâ first evangelists.
As we reach out to those who come in our door, itâs easy to see the sin. But if we look deeper, we might find the shame at the root of our new friendâs problem. Letâs go deeper, because when we do, healing can begin.
by Kirk Walden, Advancement Specialist
Heartbeat International
âWas no one found, who returned to give glory to God, except this foreigner?â
Luke 17:18
The story of Jesus cleansing the ten lepers fascinates me, because it is a great study of how we sometimes view thankfulness.
In brief, hereâs the story: Jesus is headed to Jerusalem and is between Samaria and Galilee when he hears ten lepers crying out, âJesus, master, have mercy on us!â They broke the rule for lepers, who were supposed to cry out, âUncleanâ to keep people away from them.
But instead of berating them for breaking the Mosaic Law, Jesus says to them, âGo and show yourselves to the priests,â which is what the Law instructed for those healed. Aha! And as they turned to go to the priests, they were indeed, healed. Great news, right?
Nine of the men kept going, on to the priests to fulfill the Lawâs instructions. One however (and a Samaritan at that), turned back, falling at Jesusâ feet in thanksgiving and glorifying God âwith a loud voice.â
When this takes place, Jesus asks a good question. âWere there not ten cleansed? But the nineâwhere are they?â
Jesus continues. âWas no one found, who returned to give glory to God, except this foreigner?â
An argument can be made that the nine fulfilled the rule of law. By law, they were required to go to the priests, who would thenâat some pointâdeclare them clean again. Unfortunately, by only following the rules they missed something bigger, an opportunity to know the Son of God.
Itâs interesting to note, they were more than willing to break the rule of Law when they were desperate for healing. Instead of crying out, âUnclean,â they begged for Jesus to heal them. But after healing, it was back to the rules and nothing more.
Jesus was never obligated to heal the nine. Yet when he did so, the nine treated him as if he had only met the minimum standard, overlooking him in their rush to gain their âClean Againâ certificate from the priest. As a result, they missed their big opportunity.
In our everyday encounters, we have service employees, co-workers and so many others who perform tasks which make our lives easier. No, they arenât necessarily doing something as miraculous as healing us of leprosy, but they often meet needs for us.
They may save us time. Or, fix something weâre not equipped to repair. Or, they do us a favor when we donât expect it.
When these things take place, letâs be the one who goes the extra mile to say, âThank you.â When we do, it opens the door to a greater relationship and more opportunities to build hope into their lives.
We can often view Jesus as stoic, leaving feelings aside as he pushed toward Jerusalem and his sacrifice on the cross. But I canât help but believe Jesus was moved by this one who thanked him, seeing him as an encouragement on his road to Jerusalem.
The nine received healing but missed the greater blessing. Letâs break the rules and be the one. We never know what might happen.
by Kirk Walden
Heartbeat International Advancement Specialist
âI pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you may know what is the hope of His calling . . . .â Eph. 1:18A
We pray for friends, family members, and many times for those who come in the door of our pregnancy help ministries. When we do, we might pray for specific situations, such as health, relationships, employment, finances and more.
As we pray for those in our circle of influence, letâs ask this: âHow would the world be different if God answered every one of my prayers this week?â
One pastor, made this point by asking his congregation, âIf God answered all your prayers, what would happen? Would you merely see your food blessed, a few people get over their colds and have traveling mercies to grandmotherâs house? Would that be all?â
Tough words!
But look at what Paul prays for his Ephesian friends. Letâs peek at Paul in his prayer closet:
â . . . That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to you a spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of Him. I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you may know the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints, and what is the surpassing greatness of His power toward us who believe.â (Eph. 1:17-19A)
Now thatâs praying. Paul goes beyond the requests we so often think of and straight to the heart of the matter. Because he knows, if his friends in Ephesus capture a clear understanding of Godâs love, everything else is going to fall into place.
As he continues, Paulâs greatest desire is that those receiving his letter have eyes to see the hope of what it means to be in relationship with Jesus Christ.
Which is something for us to remember. When a friend, family member or client asks for prayer, what is our primary focus? Do we focus on the situation in front of us? Or on the greater need?
Me? I tend to see the surface need and focus my attention on whatever Iâm asked to pray about. But what if I also asked for something bigger, that my friend understand, âthe hope of His callingâ and to effectively grasp Godâs love for us?
Paul focused on the greatest needs of his friends. As I pray for others, itâs a good idea to do the same.
by Kirk Walden, Heartbeat International Advancement Specialist
âAnd it came about that as I was on my way, approaching Damascus about noontime, a very bright light suddenly flashed from heaven all around me.â Acts 22:6
As we know, the Bible is full of stories. The Old Testament tell us story after story of everything from the first sin, to the rise of Israel, to heroics and failures of people like Samson, David, Solomon, Ruth and so many more.
The New Testament tells us the story of Jesus, including the stories he told. And, we also see stories of those who followed Jesus . . . and the stories they told.
Do we see a pattern here? Sharing our faith almost always begins with stories. And there is no greater example of this than Paul.
Yes, the Paul, the great theologian who gave us so many New Testament letters. The Paul who gave us everything from the great doctrinal book of Romans to the love chapter in I Corinthians 13. That Paul.
His faith began with a story. One place he tells his story is in Acts 22. Defending his work before the Jewish council, Paul launches his story by recounting his advancement in Judaism. He mentions (v. 3) his education under the great Gamaliel, and his zealousness in persecuting that ragtag bunch of heretics known as The Way (v. 4).
But, Paulâs story shifts on the road to Damascus, where he met the man he was persecuting. Jesus. Paul tells of a bright light, of being blinded and falling to the ground. And, he tells of a life-changing conversation with a man he thought to be dead, which turned him from persecutor to a promoter of this new faith.
Reading Lukeâs account of Paul telling his story, we see his listeners throwing fits of anger. This says much more about Paulâs listeners than his story. Because as we know, Paul told his story to people everywhere, launching churches all over the known world.
The point? While Paulâs story is more dramatic than most, all of us have a story.
We sometimes get caught up in trying to know exactly how to best share the hope within us. We search Bible verses, learn techniques and avail ourselves of trainings. None of this is wrong, but often our best approach is the simplest: Tell our story.
Just like with Paul, our story is our own. Someone could argue with Paul, but they could never take his story away. More important? Paulâs storyâlike oursâallows us to be transparent, which always draws in listeners.
The next time someoneâwhether inside our ministryâs doors or in our neighborhoodâwonders why we believe what we do, perhaps it is time to do what Paul did so well: Letâs tell our story.
Our story may be a conversion story, like Paulâs. Or, it may be a story of a time when we clearly saw Godâs hand in our lives. If our listener is open, our story may invite a transparent conversationâa conversation which opens the door for our listener to begin, or extend, their own story of faith.
The good news? If we have faith, we have a story. And it is often our story which may inspire the stories of others.
by Kirk Walden, Advancement Specialist
And the synagogue official, indignant because Jesus had healed on the Sabbath, began saying to the multitude in response, âThere are six days in which work should be done; therefore come during them and get healed, and not on the Sabbath day.â Luke 13:14
The synagogue official, staunch defender of tradition, must have been a fun guy to hang out with. Because after seeing the miraculous healing of a woman who spent 18 years with a sickness which kept her from ever standing upright, his first thought is to defend a man-made rule which God never intended when He created the Sabbath Day.
The religious leaders of Jesusâ day voiced plenty of complaints about their Messiah. They didnât like his friends, werenât happy with His drinking habits, and vehemently opposed how Jesus spent His Saturdays.
In their minds, Jesus was nothing but a rule-breaker; a tradition-stomping, disrespectful insurrectionist who wanted nothing more than to thumb his nose at anyone with authority.
But we know Jesus was quite the opposite. He wasâand isâthe authority, a man who loves His Father so much that He defended the Fatherâs love . . . above the rules men created for their own benefit.
Love doesnât care what day it is, because every day is the perfect time to love the hurting. Love doesnât fret over the status of someone else, because everyone is worthy to be loved. Love isnât bound by tradition because love has no shackles, no limits.
What about those of us in the pregnancy help community? Thankfully, we donât have man-made religious rules which keep us from loving.
On that Saturday, Jesus saw a woman who was, for 18 years, beyond healing. For 18 years, her illness kept her from standing upright. Nothing helped. Likely in pain every single day, no oneâs prayers made a difference. Others probably took care of her.
But somehow, on that Saturday she made it to the synagogue to see Jesus. And on that day, everything changed. It was her right time, regardless of the rules.
If we are reflections of Jesus, part of our mission is to love enough to see those who come in our door as at âjust the right timeâ for healing of emotional, spiritual and possibly even physical wounds. Because for love, thereâs no time like the present. And thatâs a rule we can always live by.
by Kirk Walden, Advancement Specialist
Servants of Excellence
âBut not so with you, but let him who is the greatest among you become as the youngest, and the leader as the servant.â Luke 22:26
âLeadershipâ is todayâs burgeoning industry. Bookstores are filled with books on leadership, online classes populate the web, day-long leadership seminars abound and leadership coaches reach out to us, ready to provide assistance as we seek to be . . . leaders.
This isnât wrong, in any sense. In fact, many Christians are leaders in this field because they first learned the importance of leadership from Jesus. They are successful because they teach what Jesus taught regarding leadershipâand it works.
And, just like Jesus, they teach that anyone can be a leader, by following one simple rule: Leaders serve.
There it is. No challenging formulas, no fancy steps.
Yet, servanthood is the opposite of what so many believe leadership is about. Jesus dealt with this during The Last Supper, as the disciplesâabout the time Jesus was washing their feetâargued over who was the leader of the pack.
Jesus stopped the conversation in its tracks. He pointed out that in the world, those with titles and money were âleaders,â but in his kingdom things would be different.
âBut not so with you, but let him who is the greatest among you become as the youngest, and the leader becomes the servant,â Jesus told them.
Then he asked, âFor who is greater, the one who reclines at the table, or the one who serves?â Before anyone could answer (probably a good thing), Jesus continued. âIs it not the one who reclines at the table? But I am among you as the one who serves.â
It would be easy to end the entire leadership conversation with, âIf you want to be a leader, go out there and serve.â And this is true. In Mark, (9:35), Jesus said as much: âIf anyone wants to be first, he shall be last of all, and servant of all.â
But there might be something even more basic in what Jesus said at The Last Supper.
Perhaps, just perhaps, Jesus was asking his closest followers not to focus on leadership, but to instead live a life of serviceâregardless of whether one becomes a leader.
This world needs good servant-leaders, no doubt. But perhaps just as much, we need those who serve, those who wake up each day determined to do at least one act of service, for no other reason than this is what Jesus taught.
Today then, letâs find just one way to serve. Letâs build our lives so this is our habit, our way of life. Will we become leaders as a result? Maybe. Maybe not.
But one thing weâll know for sure, weâll become incredible servants. And maybe this is what Jesus wanted all along.
by Kirk Walden, Advancement Specialist
âThen He poured water into the basin, and began to wash the disciplesâ feet, and to wipe them with the towel with which He was girded.â John 13:5
Jesusâ washing of the disciplesâ feet during His final Passover meal is only mentioned in one of the four gospels (John), but for centuries Christians have focused on this momentâs significance, impact and lessons for us today.
Clearly, this actâon Jesusâ final night before His crucifixionâis one of servanthood. We would not think the king of the coming kingdom would serve anyone. He should be served! But Jesus chose instead to paint a poignant picture of who we need to be as His followers. And He did so by washing the grimy, calloused feet of those who followed Him.
Which creates a question. What is a modern-day equivalent of foot-washing?
While many still practice actual foot-washing as a reminder and example, because we arenât as likely to wear sandals (well, we do wear Chacos) and walk on dirt roads all day, what is 21st century practice which follows Jesusâ powerful act of service?
May I offer one, which I often overlook? Listening.
Here is why.
In todayâs world, society is wedded to IPhones, Droids, laptops. Weâre texting, Facebooking, Twittering, Instagramming and Linking In. Any conversation is easily derailed by the distraction of a call, a âLet me just text him/her back really quicklyâ or a need to rush off to the next thing in our busy lives.
Today, we donât worry about dirty feet too much. Still, our lives get messy. And sometimes, the only way to wash off the dirt in our lives is to vent to a friend who listens, as we try to make sense of it all.
Our modern dirt is often found in a metaphorical desert, where our spiritual life converges with the challenge of trying to live out our faith in a mixed-up world. When the wind and rain of circumstances hits us from all directions as we try to walk out this faith, our spiritual feet get dirty.
Our dirt may not be a sin with which we are struggling, and it may not be a situation which demands fixing. In fact, because social media and first-world standards almost force us to hide our grime, itâs difficult for anyone to see the muck and mire which clutters our lives.
And, we try to ignore our messes as we rush to keep up with the frenetic pace at which we live.
Still, we need someone around who will listen. Because for all of us, that moment comes when we look down at our feetâtrying to walk forward in this path of faithâand see they are covered with the cares of life. They need washing.
Jesus, on his final night with his disciples, stopped. He took the time needed to thoroughly wash each manâs feet. He listened as Peter asked, mistakenly, for more. And we can be sure He listened to others as He carefully cleaned those feet which had taken the journey with Him over three years.
Sometimes, the best example of servanthood we can offer to another is the gift of listening. No judgment, no quick fixes, no pat answers. Just. Listening.
If we offer this gift, perhaps our friend will experience a refreshing rain as the overwhelming circumstances of life wash away. And the feet our friend needs to walk this journey are once again clean, ready for another next step toward the One who loves us.
And standing over her, He rebuked the fever, and it left her; and she immediately arose and waited on them. Luke 4:39
Reading through Lukeâs narrative of Jesusâ life, we quickly find Peter (and others) asking Jesus to heal his mother-in-law, suffering with a potentially fatal fever.
What captures me is not just that Jesus healed her with a quick rebuke of the fever but what happened next: âand she immediately arose and waited on them.â
Okay, no jokes about the hypothetical reason Jesus healed her (âThey needed dinner!â). My guess is, upon being healed, Peterâs mother-in-law wanted to get back to living life. No reason to sit around, right?
If Peter and the disciples were Southerners, I can imagine the conversation:
Peterâs Mother-in-Law: âI feel great! While youâre here, let me get something for yâall to eat.â
Peter and the disciples: âNo, no. Sit down, momma. Weâre fine. Get some rest.â
Mom-in-Law: âNonsense. Nobody walks out of my place starving! Iâd never forgive myself. Donât treat me like an old womanânow, eat up!â
Peter and the disciples: âYes, maâam.â
Obviously, Iâve taken some liberties with the conversation. But the point is important. Once healed, Peterâs mother wasted no time. She got up immediately and began serving those in her home.
While it didnât happen in this instance, many times Jesus would forgive the sins of someone before healing them of a physical malady. After the forgiveness and the healing, there would be immediate change in the life of the person Jesus touched.
Itâs the same with us.
Immediately. If we have something in our lives we regret, Jesus will heal us. Once He does, our healing is full and finished.
Yes, we may need to make amends (as Zacchaeus was willing to do for those he defrauded). But any apologies or restitution are the fruit of healing, which is already complete.
Is there somethingâanythingâin our lives slowing us from living life to the full? Something from last week or long ago? If so, letâs take it to the One who forgives completely. From there, letâs take a lesson from Peterâs mother-in-law.
She understood that once we are touched by Jesus, healing is complete. We are free to go and live life to the full. She knew she could get back to serving those in her world. We can, too.
by Kirk Walden, Advancement Specialist
So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things. Behold, how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire!â James 3:5
In Jamesâ letter to the Christian Jews dispersed abroad, his references to the tongue (James 3:1-18) are quite a warning. He calls the tongue a fire, then goes on to say our tongues can be âthe very world of iniquity,â --not exactly a walk into the world of positive thinking.
Sometimes we need warnings. They capture our attention (âWatch out!â), they caution us (âIf you touch that, it will burn you.â) and they help us re-think our future decisions (âIf you keep doing this, your health risks only increaseâ).
James probably realized his brothers and sisters needed a warning, but even in the warning he shows a way out. At the end of his missive on the tongue, he asks, âWho among you is wise and understanding? Let him show by his good behavior his deeds in the gentleness of wisdom.â
As I was reading these verses one morning, I sensed the Lord moving me to write a quick text of encouragement to a friend. He would be on a stage that evening, attempting to move peopleâs hearts to reconsider their views regarding Jesusâin a sense, he would be evangelizing in a debate setting.
Usually I let these promptings wait until Iâm done reading, but this time, I snagged my phone to jot out a text immediately.
When pulling up my text feature however, I already had a text from a friend 2,407 miles away. This friendâa pastor I met at a speaking engagement more than a year earlierâwas getting in touch to say I and my family were on his mind. He was praying for us.
Sure, it was âjust a text.â But it was a tremendous encouragement. And it was coming at just after 6 AM his time. We shared a couple of texts as we built up each other, which gave me the words for a quick word of hope and help for the friend who was in the Carolinas for his speaking engagement.
Going back to Jamesâ letter, I realized the tongue can certainly be a fire. It can burn down relationships, damage our ability to advance the faith, and wreck the hearts of people we may not even know.
But, as James says (James 3:4), just like ships âare still directed by a very small rudder, wherever the inclination of the pilot desires,â the tongue directs our lives. A friend in Oregon used his tongue (through something as innocuous as a text message) to direct not only his, but my life as well. And his text gave me an extra push to encourage anotherâwho would be speaking to several hundred people that evening.
As I plopped my phone back down to get back to my buddy James, it hit me: Yes, the tongue is a fire. But not all fires are bad.
Some fires clear out bad stuff (scrub brush, etc.) so trees can flourish without fear of further fires. Other fires keep us warm and cozy.
Yes, a fire can be threatening. We donât want our tongues starting those fires.
But our tongues can also burn away the dead brush in anotherâs life. And they can be a source of warmth for another when the world out there can be so cold.
Each day, we use our tongues to direct our livesâand those of others. In the process, we start fires. The question is, âWhich kind?â
by Kirk Walden